Intimacy is the accumulation of being known. It grows when you share something true and are met with care, and it shrinks each time you edit yourself to avoid a reaction.
Part 01
The lesson
For many men the barrier is not desire but vocabulary and habit. Start by saying one honest thing a day that you would normally keep to yourself.
Reflection
Questions to sit with
- 01When you are hurt, do you say so, or do you go quiet and make the other person guess?
- 02What did you learn about love from the home you grew up in, and which parts do you want to keep?
- 03When did you last apologise without adding an explanation?
Put it into practice
Action points
- 01For one week, ask 'do you want help or do you want me to listen?' before responding to any problem someone brings you.
- 02Write down the last three arguments you had. Identify the real underlying issue in each, rather than the surface topic.